Forgiveness and Mercy

I was listening to an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert when she said something that stopped me in my tracks.

“Anytime I get a chance to talk to people on the subject of mercy, I just want to put in a word for it. Because I believe that we live in a merciless culture, and I believe that we are merciless to ourselves and I believe that we are very often merciless to each other. But most merciless to ourselves because we’ve been taught to be.”

I heard her say the words “…I believe that we live in a merciless culture…”and I stopped in my tracks because she is right. Being in the healing industry, I’m always hearing talk of compassion. In fact, right now I’m taking an online workshop about self-compassion.

But mercy? Mercy seems like a more powerful word, an active word. And I started to wonder, what is the difference between compassion and mercy?

Let’s take a look at the definitions. Continue reading Forgiveness and Mercy

Finding Forgiveness During the Holidays

The holidays are full of decorations, delicious food, friends and family, giving and fun! Right? Right?!

The truth is, the holidays can bring up a lot of relationship stuff. Yucky relationship stuff. Family issues. Difficult friendships.

You know what I’m talking about.

It may not be this year, but I’m guessing that everyone has endured an uncomfortable holiday gathering, or decided not to even go to a gathering because of a conflict.

What we don’t talk about often during the holidays, and definitely NEED to talk about during the holidays, is forgiveness.

Now, if you just got your back up because you are NEVER EVER going to forgive that a-hole in you family, and they don’t deserve to be forgiven. Relax. I’m going to let you in on a little secret…

Forgiveness is for yourself. Not for them. Continue reading Finding Forgiveness During the Holidays