Return – The Hero returns to their world with a reward for conquering their challenge. The hero is transformed and has gained wisdom and spiritual power over their world and the adventure world they survived.
The hero learns new things about themselves while on their adventure. They learn their strengths and weaknesses. They learn new skills. And the heroes in all the stories always learn a vital lesson: they can handle anything that comes their way.
These are the wisdom and rewards the hero receives at the end of their journey.
It was difficult to write this blog because I don’t believe we have reached this part of our Hero’s Journey, yet. We don’t know what the end looks like.
In 2003, I was engaged to a very nice man we will call Allen. I have talked about this engagement before. As a recap, Allen had a six year old daughter. He also had a mother that considered the daughter her daughter. So, in his mother’s eyes, I was taking away her only son and her “daughter” she had a “special relationship” with. Furthermore, the daughter had ADD, and I was trying my best to create a healthy lifestyle for her to help with her ADD.
I was trying to force my will against something that, frankly, wasn’t going to change.
One morning, the mother/grandmother came by to pick up the daughter/granddaughter. I was still in bed. It is funny how you know the sounds and routines in your house. I could tell by the pause from when the front door opened and when it closed that the mother/grandmother had a “little conversation” with Allen. And my intuition knew exactly what the conversation was: she was upset at how I had “treated her” the night before at a family function.
And inside, something broke.
I realized that I was striving for acceptance in a family that didn’t like me. I was trying not to act like a mother while doing all the “mom” work. I was twisted in knots and not being myself. That break was me surrendering. I surrendered to the reality that I was sacrificing who I was in order to be with him…and it wasn’t working.
With reality of the situation hitting me, I realized I had two choices. If I stayed in this situation, I would not be who I was in 5 years. I would be someone completely different. And if I left, I would be breaking off an engagement and hurting someone I truly cared for, but I would be saving myself from destruction. Continue reading Surrender and Heal
Back in 2009, life was a bit stressful in the Yoga Nerd household. My husband’s business was still finding its feet and he wasn’t taking a paycheck. I wasn’t making enough to cover all the bills, so our credit card debt was rising.
Driving to a massage gig one day, my mind was spinning on all of these stresses. My stress level was rising with every spin around my fears. It was very uncomfortable and not helpful at all. And I was very aware it was not fair to my clients to receive massages from a person whose mind was spinning in stress and fear. I needed to do something to change my state of mind. Continue reading Smiling Makes Us All Superheros
Life happens. And often that life is frustratingly full of annoyances and mean people. Being centered and grounded is your one defense against irrational emotional explosions and possibly jail. I’m here to help you learn these Yoga Nerd tools.
The Enneagram system and how it helps Yoga Nerds walk the healing path.
If you missed my previous blog on why I love the Enneagram and how it helped me on my healing journey, you can read it here.
Every time I try to describe the Enneagram, it comes out very flat and uninteresting. It sounds like I’m describing yet another personality test that will, yet again, tell you that you are a questioning, introverted, emotional person. But what good does that information do? Most personality tests give you black and white information and no guidance on what to do with it. It’s like the test is saying, “You are what you are. Live with it.”
The first time I heard about the Enneagram was in 2003 from my college roommate. She asked me to go online and take this personality test. So I did. It said I was a personality type 6 – the loyalist. She exclaimed, “I knew it! I knew it!” I read the description and thought, yeah, that could be me. I didn’t think much of it after that.
In 2004 I started going to therapy to figure out why I kept making the same mistakes in relationships over and over again. I had just ended an engagement and knew I needed some healing. My therapist used the Enneagram in her practice, so I told her, “I’m a 6.” After talking a bit, she said, “Have you looked at personality type 9 – the peacemaker?” I defiantly said no, I was a 6. She gently handed me a piece of paper that described the 9. I remember looking at it and recoiling because, damn it, I was a 6. But, wait…maybe? My therapist suggested I go home and read about the personality type 9.