The Bubble of Love – Forgiving and Letting Go of Negative People
At some point in the healing process, all of my energy therapy clients need to let go of someone in their lives. This person is usually an unhealthy presence. This person may or may not still be in their day-to-day life. Furthermore, this person may not even be on the planet anymore. Regardless of any of these states of being, this person is still present in the client’s day to day life because the mere thought of them stir up feelings. This other person still has control over the client.
Often, this person brings up feeling of anger, sadness, and other negative feelings. These negative feelings, while they have a place in our lives, connect to ego and make it difficult to let go. When we have sadness and anger, we want those feeling to be fixed. We want justice. We want acknowledgement of our hurt feelings and life damage from that person. We want a resolution. And even harder, how do you find this resolution when that person is no longer physically present in your life. Thing is, letting go of someone isn’t about justice or resolution. Letting go requires forgiveness. And forgiveness is found in love.
This is where the bubble of love comes into play.
People often laugh when I describe this process to them. It seems silly. It seems too simple. However, it is extremely powerful. I can’t take credit for the bubble of love. I don’t remember who taught it to me, but I have used it time and time again with success and relief.
Here’s how: Picture the person you wish to remove in your mind’s eye. Picture a bubble of any color you wish around them. I usually pick pink or purple. Then picture them floating away in the same fashion as the Good Witch in The Wizard of Oz. As they are floating away, lovingly wave to them in your mind saying, “Goodbye! I wish you all the best! Have a wonderful life!” and other such pleasantries. As you do this, you will realize that you DO wish them happiness and a wonderful life as that would mean that they will have resolved their own issues that have caused such ill between you. And you DO wish them a wonderful life…just somewhere away from you.
My best friend’s mother has a saying that has stuck with me all these years. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Many of us have loved someone destructive to themselves and others. We want them to heal. We want them to see the beauty we see in them so much. But one of the biggest lessons in life is that you can not change or heal other people. They have to do it themselves. They need to be open and willing to the healing messages others are giving them, and willing to take the risk to change. As much as we desire, try and pray…we can not do it for them. And if their behavior is hurting you, you must set up a boundary. Sometimes that boundary is leaving.
Hence, the bubble of love.
The bubble of love also has an added bonus. It is a message to the Universe that you wish this person to no longer be in your life. The Universe hears your wish and works its magic to make your wish come true. Say you have co-worker or boss that you don’t like working with, but not enough to find another job. Call upon the bubble of love. Not only are you asking them to leave, you are wishing them to find a better life…somewhere else. Or, maybe a job opportunity you never dreamed of will take you away from the destructive co-worker. Either way, the Universe hears you wishes.
I have used the bubble of love to remove ex-boyfriends and unhealthy friendship. But I didn’t realize the healing quality of the bubble of love until recently when I used it with an estranged family member. This family member has been a bully in the family for decades. I didn’t realize until I was older the manipulation going on. At some point, they crossed the line and I set up a boundary. I spoke my truth. No one had ever done that to them before. They stopped talking to me, their tactic of punishment. We haven’t talked for eight years. They weren’t invited to my wedding. Months ago, there was a death in the family which reopened second-hand communication. Once again, I found myself getting riled up, angry, and afraid. I wondered to myself, will this ever go away? Will I ever be grounded enough to not let this bother me? I knew I needed to forgive in order for this to happen, but I just couldn’t see a way to do that. Despite my standing up to them, the rest of the family still catered to her and I was the outcast whenever the estranged family member was involved. It’s an uncomfortable feeling to have someone so easily rile you up. And then, one day, it occurred to me to try the bubble of love.
Relief. Instant relief. Relief because not only was I watching this person leave my life, I was seeing them with compassion and wishing them well. Let bygones be bygones. Bridge under the water…in another city.
So, give it a try. If there is an ex in your life that still brings feelings of hurt when thought of, put them in the bubble of love. Have a boss you can’t stand? Put them in the bubble of love. A family member who makes you feel like poo. Bubble of love them. Bubble of Love, Baby!