What makes you YOU?
“For young women, I would say, don’t worry so much about your weight. Girls spend way too much time thinking about that, and there are better things. For young men, and women, too, what makes you different or weird, that’s your strength. Everyone tries to look a cookie-cutter kind of way, and actually the people who look different are the ones who get picked up. I used to hate my nose. Now, I don’t.” – Meryl Streep
I’ve always loved Meryl Streep. And after reading this quote, I’m including her in the yoga nerd family. She doesn’t know that, unless she happens upon this blog, which would be SUPER AMAZING! I love her and she is always welcome in our family.
This advice she gives, to not worry so much about your weight, I talked about in a previous blog, the Wasted Energy of Weight Obsession. In this blog I want to talk about the other half of her advice. Find your strength in what makes you different or weird. This is exactly the road I describe to healing. Only through discovering who we are, and loving who we are, will we find peace and happiness.
So first, we learn to appreciate what makes us different.
And here’s the thing, we are all weird and different. Think about how boring the world would be if we were all the same. For example, what if we all looked like Nicolas Cage? And if you really want to know, just search, “Nicolas Cage Face Swap.” You’ll find Cage’s face on everyone, including Yoda, Legolas, Hagrid, E.T., the Pope, Michael Jackson, even cats! The list goes on and on.
Anyway, you get the point. We are meant to be different. We are all given special qualities and other people appreciate us for our unique differences. What makes us weird or different is our strength. Here, Nicolas Cage is another example. Cage is famous for over-acting his sometimes bizarre characters and we love him. Well, not everyone loves him, but he is definitely famous! So much so, people put his face on Hostess Cupcakes. He is famous for what makes him different.
I’ve always fallen in love with the unusual actors. I’ve never been one to swoon over the latest hunk. Except when I was little and madly in love with Harrison Ford. He is the exception. The handsome ones like the Hollywood Chrises (Chris Pratt, Chris Evans, Chris Pine, Chris Helmsworth), they are nice to look at, but I’m not running to buy a ticket to see their movie. My favorite actors have been unique in looks and in their craft, like John Malkovich and Robin Williams. I love Robin Williams so much I have a half written blog dedicated to him. And what made Robin Williams famous? He was different. He was a compact hairy man whose improv was unique. His improv was something no one else had ever done with wacky characters instead of one liners. And it was weird Mork from Ork that made the nation fall in love with him.
So what makes you different? Is it your laugh? Your smile? Your teeth? Your height? Your strong personality? Are you serious all the time or do you laugh everything off? What makes you You?
There is another aspect to what makes us unique. I’ve talked before about discovering what our passions are, the things that makes us happy. This is just another aspect of what makes us weird or different.
I recently learned of a man who retired and is now a Sasquatch hunter. That’s right. Bigfoot. He spends every day in the mountains searching for Bigfoot. Others might think this weird. Really? Sasquatch? But he is happy. Happier than he has ever been! And he is dead serious about this subject. He takes pictures and has theories. And he isn’t the only one. There are Sasquatch conventions. For real.
But doesn’t this give you hope? Once you discover your passion, you probably won’t be alone. For no man is an island. There will be other people who have the same passion. And you can talk at length about the ins and outs of whatever it is that makes you happy.
This, my friends, makes life worth living.
I am happiest when I am talking with people about the Enneagram. I am happiest when I am talking to other yoga teachers about teaching yoga. I am happiest when I’m talking to people about energy and healing. I am happiest when I am looking at corgi pictures on the corgi Facebook pages I follow, because corgis are so happy. I am happiest when I’m talking to a friend about an awesome scene in a movie. All of these things make me “me.”
Baseball, board games, hiking, sharks, rescuing dogs, vegan cooking, baking, fencing, quilting, reading, writing, movies, art, making art, biking, golf, Frisbee golf, brewing beer, wine tasting, camping, fishing, Mexican culture, French culture, WWII history, flying, travel, gardening, jeeps, puzzles, TV shows like 24, The Walking Dead and Game of Thrones, sewing, Magic the Gathering, Dungeons and Dragons, aliens and UFOs, wood working, horses, live music…all of these things are things people in my life are passionate about.
So, this week, think about the things that interest you and indulge in them. Go on the internet and do some research. You’d be surprised at the groups and hobbies that are out there.
For instance, maybe you are interested in medieval history. Did you know you can learn how to fight with medieval weapons? Or that there are groups of people who meet regularly and dress up in medieval clothing and act out medieval times. Or, you could get into miniature games, where a whole table is set up as a medieval battle and you each take a group of men and fight, rolling dice to make your moves.
Or maybe you are interested in birds. Maybe look into a bird rescue in your area. Or look into learning to hunt with falcons.
What if you have no idea? Go to meetup.com and check out some of the categories they have there. I just found a group called, “The Breakfast Club.” It’s a bunch of people who loved the movie and like the idea of very different people coming together and doing fun things. Fun, huh?!
So, with that, I leave you to your self-discovery. What makes you You? Whatever it is, I know it is awesome! Because you are awesome!
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